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Do You Monitor Who Your Children are Friends With?

This week's moms talk is about how parents deal with their children's social life.

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Question: As a parent, how do you monitor who your children are friends with? If so, how? If not, why?

If your children use social media, do you monitor them on social media site? If so, how?

: This one is a tricky question. I have elementary school children. I think this is a more important issue for parents of middle and high school kids.

For that age range I would think parents may worry more about influences of lack of academics, drugs, sex and drinking, etc. With elementary school kids it is really not an issue.

I haven't given much thought to how I will handle it but I do know that in high school my father told me he thought one of my friends was a bad influence on me and didn't want me to hang out with her. She is an amazing person and I am so happy to still (25 years later) call her my good friend.

Trudy March 17, 2011 at 02:11 AM
Absolutely...I think at any age you should monitor who your children are friends with, but especially middle and high school. And, we as parents must also set examples in choosing our friends and the life style we live. With all the technology for children to keep in touch with their friends, it makes it even harder but worth the effort.
Lori Cacciatore April 07, 2011 at 06:05 PM
Lori I would offer to drive my children and thier friends to places. You can sometimes get a sense of who they are. This would be a start at the earliest ages. I always allowed my children to have friends over whenever possible. Listening to thier conversations without being in the way. In my home, my children know that we as parents are allowed to check thier rooms whenever we think we need too. But if personal letters were found we would not read them. Hopefully your child will choose good friends and I as a parent knowing that my children are smart, I feel I have to trust them. If I feel a particular friend is not good, I would talk with my child on the importance of hanging out with good friends, but never would I say they can't hang out, because that could break our trust. Spending alone time with your child is the best way to have a conversation without distraction. Keep talking with your children as much as possible as long as it doesn't annoy them.
David April 29, 2011 at 01:50 AM
Here is a website that I used to monitor my kids on Facebook. It works great and gives me a daily email update of any concerns. I can even add my own unique words/phrases to be monitored. I love it. www.socialwebwatch.com
Michelle Bailey April 30, 2011 at 02:02 PM
Does anyone know of a way to monitor YouTube or block the selection fo the other recommended videos?

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